"Every individual is equal before and under the law and has the right to the equal protection and equal benefit of the law without discrimination..." — Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms
Inclusivity. Diversity. Equality.
Humanist weddings celebrate the commitment of two people to share their lives together. We welcome couples of every faith, culture, ethnicity, sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression.
Interfaith & non-religious couples
Many couples who ask me to be their officiant describe themselves as agnostic, atheist, or simply non-religious. Others come from religious backgrounds but prefer to leave religious language out of their ceremony.
As a Humanist Officiant, I will work with you to create a ceremony that reflects you and your own preferences, drawing inspiration from science, literature, music, the creative arts, and the beauty of the natural world.
I will not make references to God or holy matrimony, nor will I show up in religious attire, read from the Bible, recite a prayer, seek the blessing of a divine power, or turn your wedding ceremony into a sermon.
I will also provide you with the full text of your ceremony for your review and approval in advance of your wedding day, so you can be sure it reflects you and your values.
LGBTQ2+ weddings & gender pronouns
Same-sex marriage has been legal in Ontario since 2003. Unfortunately, many officiants in Ontario still refuse to perform same-sex weddings, some stating a religious objection, others pretending the marriage will somehow be invalid or that they would have their officiant's licence revoked. (Fact check: the sex or gender of the applicants is not indicated anywhere on the marriage licence.)
Discrimination has no place in Canadian society. When two people love each other, it's a time for celebration! I was trained and certified by Humanist Canada, an organization that promotes and protects marriage equality, and I personally support same-sex marriage. I would be honoured to officiate your ceremony.
I usually say "husband, groom, he, him, his" for male partners and "wife, bride, she, her" for female partners. If you have another preference, just let me know and I would be happy to use the pronouns of your choice.
Your cultural backgrounds may be different but your traditions are complementary, for their aims are the same: kindness, respect, and a love of family.
That is the essence and beauty of marriage. And yet, it is not a melting pot in which differences cease to exist. When you bring together two pasts and two cultures into marriage, you develop new personal dimensions, adding new memories and new hopes to those you are bringing into this union—and to your future together.
Equality in marriage
Marriage is a cooperative relationship based on love, friendship, and respect. You are two unique individuals, sharing your hopes, dreams, desires, and promises for the future.
You have an equally important role in supporting each other to develop your talents and skills in your own way. In marriage, this balance of individuality and union builds a solid foundation for a shared life together.